Mystic River – DivX Version (Normal Quality), DVD (Good Quality), PDA Version
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IMDB rating: 8.00 Plot: Childhood friends Jimmy Markum (Penn), Sean Devine (Bacon) and Dave Boyle (Robbins) reunite following the death of Jimmy’s oldest daughter, Katie (Rossum). Sean’s a police detective on the case, gathering difficult and disturbing evidence; he’s also tasked with handling Jimmy’s rage and need for retribution. |
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DivX Version (Normal Quality), DVD (Good Quality), PDA Version
Actors: Penn Sean,Bacon Kevin,Fishburne Laurence,Robbins Tim,Chapman Kevin,Guiry Tom,Clark Spencer Treat,Mackin Andrew,Nelson Adam,Wahlberg Robert,Doman John,Crime,Drama,Mystery,
My brother today told me he was sexually assaulted as a kid? he's 29? help me help my brother pls?
my brother has had a long history of episodal alcoholism (is fine for mons, then bam, is drinking and a different person, depressed and out of control). It is always triggered by something. First it was the birth of his daughter. then his wife got pregnant again a year later and they’re due next mon with a son this time, but they were told he will have to have a kidney removed and be in NICU for awhile and will have only 1 kidney. So naturally that would worry any parent. So I think combined with all the stress of work, bills, a little baby girl to support (19 mons) and then another baby on the way who will have health problems possibly, is making my brother turn to drinking again to deal. well whenever he drinks something bad/ terrible always happens. For example 2 weeks ago he got into a fight with these hells’ angels guys at some biekr bar (so that’s the story his fatehr in alw told us anwyay and he verified it) and they threw car battery acid on his face but i guess it didnt leave any marks and he’s fine from it.
but my dad says he doesnt even know if thats true, it could juist be a lie and that his wife did it instead. or it wasn’t even acid. idk what to believe or think anymore.
he is stayng at my parents’ house right now (whom i often visit with my 17-mon-old daughter). anyways he was watching the movie "Mystic River" over and over again this certain clip on youtube. One of the characetrs in it gets molested as a little boy. Finally he turned to me and was crying and told me he had to tell me something. he said when he was 11, he got basically anally raped by these redneck guys and his friend was too. He was drunk when he said this. I dont know if I should believe it or not. If it’s true, it makes sense why he this way as an adult bc otherwise we had a very "normal" healthy childhood, not the recipe for alcohlism. It would explain why he’s always trying hard to be tough and macho. why he’s not shaped up as a father bc he has not completely stopped drinking. (btw when he doesnt drink, he’s a great dad/husband/brother etc). Anyways he was also really depressed as a teen sometime around the age of 11. But I just dont know if he’s making this up for attention and bc hes drunk, or if it’s true. part of me wants to believe it’s not. Then part of me is even more worried he would make up something like that just cause.
Anyways I’m just wondering does it sound like he was? He said they were complete strangers. And also, he never seemed badly injured at that age from what I recall. Wouldnt he have been? Could an 11-year-old boy really hide something like that, an 11-year-old boy with rather attentive, caring parents?
and the rest of the question is, how can I help my brother? If he was? or even if he wasnt? bc he has lots of other issues. my ehart breaks for my brother. I sense he feels trapped in the marriage to his wife and responsibilty and I hate seeing he’s so unhappy deep down beneath the facade when he’s sober. And if what he said really happened to him as a kid, then also haunted by demons of the past. I dont want to see him like this. i dont know what to do. help.
sorry I know this isn’t really a parenting question, but I feel family has too many kids loomign around. i wanta dvcie from other parents, who usually are more mature.
I have often found that the truth comes out when a person is drunk. Drinking gives people the courage to talk about things that they would normally be to ashamed to talk about when they are sober. Chances are your brother is talking the truth. Children who are molested tend to feel it is their fault and they have done something wrong. This is why they hide it. Children can be raped by family memebers for years before the truth is known.Your brother needs to recieve councelling. Only a qualified person who is trained to deal with these kinds of issues can help him now. I would speak to an organisation that deals with and works with victims of rape. You will need to get as much information you can on the subject. They should be able to direct you to someone who can councel him and help him to work through this trauma. When you have all the information you need and have secured the number of a person who can councell him, broach the subject gently. Dont pressure him. Just suggest it casually. Then when he is ready to see someone you will already have everything arranged so that he doesnt change his mind. Good luck and God bless you both.
As a christian i would say bring him to Christ but it is not always easy to do this. You can however pray for his inner healing.
Seeking God | Nov 11, 2009
Get professional help. Find a therapist who specializes in sexual abuse.
Jake | Nov 11, 2009